Self-Care Isn’t Selfish It’s Essential
Written by Melony Cohen, PsyD and Alexa Winer, AMFT
In a world that often praises productivity and busyness, taking time for yourself can feel indulgent or even selfish. But here’s the truth: self-care is not selfish. It’s necessary. Tending to your own well-being is what allows you to move through life with more clarity, presence, and emotional strength. It’s not about escaping your responsibilities, it’s about honoring your limits and meeting your needs.
Self-care is a fundamental part of maintaining our mental, emotional, and physical health. When we neglect it, we’re more likely to feel burned out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from ourselves. On the other hand, when we take the time to check in, slow down, and recharge, we’re better equipped to handle stress, navigate relationships, and show up fully in our lives.
And it doesn’t have to be complicated.
Self-care can look like:
Saying no to something that doesn’t align with your energy or priorities
Letting yourself rest without guilt
Taking a quiet moment to breathe or stretch
Reaching out to someone you trust for connection or support
Doing something creative just for fun
Turning off notifications and giving your brain a break
It’s also important to remember that self-care looks different for everyone, and it might change day to day depending on what you need. The key is listening to yourself, really listening, and honoring those small inner cues that tell you when you're tired, when you need space, or when something just doesn’t feel right.
You don’t need to “earn” rest or prove how hard you’re working to deserve a break. Being human is enough.
So if no one has reminded you today:
You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to slow down. You’re allowed to prioritize yourself.
Take some time today to do something, no matter how small, that brings you a sense of joy, peace, or comfort. Whether it’s five minutes of stillness, a walk outside, or turning on a song that makes you happy, it counts. You matter. Your needs matter. And your well-being deserves attention, too.
